MY LOVE LETTER TO MY UNBORN DAUGHTERS

I have waited for so long to have you here.I never met you but i missed you so much.There are a lots to be learnt,but i know this will take time,just like i have promised myself i won't give you a blue print to your life,but indeed these are fundamentals.No one said this will be easy my ladies.

Don't make one of the biggest mistake i made leaving your happiness in the hands of anyone,not even 'me',this will only make you a very angry and probably a violent person.Life is full of ups and downs,don't let no one put you down,keep your head up.
Be happy,live your life although you cannot help everyone,but help as much as possible even if it means giving out your last meal,trust me baby,i have been there.As much as i try to give you the best training in the world,baby girl,i need you to understand that what you become is what you make of your self.Think big and i mean,think very big.Be the best you can be,never settle for less.

Your first role is to be the best sister alive,you need to always look out for her with or without me,she's your responsibility and always will be.I promise  to always be there for you but when i forget,please always remind me,i need you to understand that whenever  i dont come to pick you and your sister in school,that's because i'm out of town or duty calls.

As much as we thrive to do the best we can,i mean) myself and my best friend and lover,your 'mum', we definitely will have our flaws,but never compare us with other parents.
Mum might be too busy with works and business and taking care of you,but trust me,i will always be there to listen whenever and whatever it is.,
You want to know why i decided to leave home to hustle very early in life?i did that for you because i want you to have everything i never had.

One favour i need from you,please never lie to me because i wont judge you ever.I dont see myself holding a cane up,but trust me,many times i ll loose my voice scolding you,anyways,i cant say for mummy,she is an advocate of spare the rod and spoil the child.

As many times as we get to sit down,i will tell you how i lived my life,that way you know how not to live yours.
Aside salvation of my soul,i took church seriously  because of you and i need to know about God early enough because trust me baby,you ll be needing him around here all the time.

You and your sister are the best things that will ever happen to me,so please my daughters,never have an abortion,what i mean is never have sex with a man) you do not love,just like i said earlier,daddy will not judge you'.

The fact that i bought this cars in your name doesnt mean that i can't have your grounded,thats own way of curbing your excesses.

Don't ever believe when they say all men are the same,your father is a good man and there are a lot of better men out there.

If you are lucky to find love early,bring him home and let me and mum evaluate him,lets pray about it and if you decide to settle down at 21,i will make sure your wedding ceremony is talked about for a really long time.
Baby,i dont care if he is rich or poor,i just want you to fall in love with a man with a vision,a very big dream.i need my grand kids to enjoy a whole lot too.

if you end up falling in love with a poor man,baby please dont hide it from me,remember i wasnt born rich either,i can help make him into a whatever he wishes as long as he has a vision.

Baby,as muxh as i really do love you,there's a limit to what i won't listen to about your new family,whenever you have issues with your husband,please sit him down and have that conversation.Always communicate with him,never bottle up feelings,love or anger.I have been there,its not worth it.

Don't let even your husband lie to you,he wont love you as much as i do,honestly i doubt if mum ll ever love you as much too,but trust me,she really does too.
Always forgive people not because they are worth it,but because our father in heaven forgives us all.
On days when you cannot go down on your knees and pray,always learn to say good morning to your God.

if peradventure you find peace and hope in another religion,talk to me about it,i need to see you in your conviction but do it for love.My mum lived her entire life as a muslim and my dad never made her convert for him.

some holidays you wont be spending abroad,you have a lot to learn from the grannies too and dont forget while you are busy growing up,they are getting old too,we ll all miss them when they are gone.

Baby,growing up,i cared about a lot of people,but i hardly got that now,i take solace in the fact that you ll always be there for me as much as i am for you,i dont want much,just talk to me as much as possible,call me to hear your voice,send me jokes in text mesaages,now in our days,whatsapp did all the magic tho.

At this junction,i ll like to drop my pen to think of a new piece,but all of these,i can't wait to meet you pretty soon.

Thanks.
                                                      Yours faithfully,
                                                          Your father,olayinka
                                                           Bankole.